Unhappy In Bed?  Should You Talk to Your Partner?

Are you in a relationship?  If you are, are you currently happy with your sex life or the level of intimacy that you and your partner share?  If not, you may be unsure as to how to proceed.  You may be interested in talking to your partner, but you may also be nervous and fearful at the same time. 

So, is it a good idea to let your partner know that you are unhappy in bed?  Of course it is.  A dull or boring sex life can have a negative impact on a relationship.  It is also important to note that an open line of communication is an important component of a happy and healthy relationship, both in the physical and emotional sense.  If you cannot talk to your partner about sex, how do you honestly expect your relationship to continue on?

As it was previously stated, communication is key to a successful relationship and not just in the bedroom.  If you can talk to your partner about sex, you can likely talk to them about anything.  This means that your relationship is less likely to suffer from a lack of communication or poor communication.  This may translate into less arguments and more time in the bedroom.

Another reason why you should talk to your partner if you are currently unhappy with the intimacy received is because it will improve.  The last thing that your partner wants to hear is that they aren’t providing you with enough pleasure and excitement.  As soon as your wants, needs, and desires are openly discussed, your intimacy levels may skyrocket.  It is also important to note that you will eventually end up being more satisfied in bed.

Another reason why all intimacy problems should be discussed with your partner is because they too can be satisfied more.  When you do bring about the discussion of sex but sure not to just focus on your wants, needs and desires.  Ask your partner for input as well.  They may have their own suggestions.  To have a happy and healthy relationship, as well as sex life, both of you need to be satisfied.  Pleasure should not be one sided only.

Although there are a number of pros and cons to talking about your unhappiness in bed with your partner, there are also a number of downsides to doing so as well.  One of those being difficulty.  For many men and women, the subject of sex can be discomforting to talk about.  Add in the fact that you are expressing displeasure or the need for change and an uncomfortable situation may ensure. 

It is also important to note that talking about your unhappiness in bed can also have an adverse, negative effect on your relationship.  Yes, it is important to have an open line of communication in any serious relationship, but there are some things that people just do not want to hear.  Do not be surprised if your partner gets defensive when talking to you.  In fact, you may want to prepare for it.  It is natural for both men and women to get defensive when they are essentially being told that their sex isn’t good enough and needs improvement.

If you do decide to talk to your partner about improving your intimacy in the bedroom, just be sure to use caution and your best judgment.  Do not criticize your partner and try to not make them feel inadequate.  Gently approaching the situation has a number of benefits, including the elimination of hurt feelings.  It also better allows you to have an open, honest, and mature discussion.

As a reminder, there are a number of pros and cons to talking to your partner about your unhappiness with your intimacy.  With that being, the end result is often well worth the discussion.  Just remember to be careful about your approach, as how you start the conversation and what you say during it may have a significant impact on the outcome.


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4 Ways to Improve Your Intimacy with Your Wife

Are you married?  If so, you likely love your wife, right?  Despite a deep and intense love for your wife, you may still want to see an improvement in your intimacy.  After all, what man doesn’t want good sex? 

If you want to improve your intimacy with your wife, it is important to know that you have a number of different options.  Unfortunately, many men automatically start think of the bedroom. Yes, you do want to “wow,” your wife in the bedroom, but that is not all that sex and intimacy is about.  In fact, that is where many marriages go wrong.  Too much focus is placed on the sex or the lack of it. 

To help you properly improve your intimacy with your wife, please continue reading on.  A few easy to implement, yet successful approaches are highlighted below for your convenience.

1 – Date Her

How long have you been married?  If you have been married for a number of years now, do you honestly remember when your last “real,” date was.  Unfortunately, many men underestimate the power of a date. You will not want to make this mistake.  If you opt just for the sex, your wife may start to feel like it is her responsibility to please you and this is not how a relationship should work.

To not only improve your satisfaction in the bed, but to improve your wife’s satisfaction, take her out on a date.  Many times, getting out of the house is enough to bring new excitement into a relationship.  For the best level of success, choose a romantic date theme, such as a fancy dinner, a romantic movie, or a night at a nice hotel.

2 – Compliment Her

When is the last time that you have paid your wife a truly nice and unique compliment?  If it has been a while, it is time for you to start again.  Is your wife wearing a new outfit?  Has she recently started a weight loss plan?  Did your wife get her hair cut?  If so, be sure to compliment her.  Complimenting your wife on her appearance will increase her self-confidence.  This, in turn, can improve experiences in the bedroom.

As important as it is to compliment your wife on her appearance, it is also important to remember to compliment her on other areas of your relationship.  Do you notice that the house is clean?  Has your wife prepared a nice dinner?  If so, thank her for the job well done.  This will not only help to improve your relationship in general, but it can have an impact on your experiences in the bedroom.

3 – Seduce Her

What is sex like in your home?  Does it occur like clockwork?  Do you actually take the time to ask your wife if she wants to have sex?  If so, try to refrain from doing so.  Yes, you may be rejected, due to a headache or being tired, but why not take the chance?  Be spontaneous.  Seduce your wife.  Make her want to have sex with you.

4 – Fulfill Her Fantasies

In keeping with seducing your wife, let her know that you want to fulfill her fantasies.  It may take your wife a few times to open up about what she likes or fantasizes about sexually, but the information will likely come out soon.  Give it your all to fulfill your wife’s sexual fantasies.  It is also important to note that afterwards is the perfect time to share your fantasies and sexual desires with your wife.  In end, you may all end up being much more pleased.

As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about improving the intimacy in your relationship.  Please remember, however, that you want to get started in someplace other than the bedroom.  Sex in a marriage is about more and should be more than just the act itself.  Taking the time to date and compliment your wife will more than pay off in the end.


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