Relationships

4 Easy Ways to Spice Up Things in the Bedroom

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Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the bedroom?  If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship.  But what if your relationship is long-term?  What if you are married?  What if you really do love your partner?  What steps should you take then?

When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last approach.  Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up.  Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.

As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you should proceed.  If that is the case, please continue reading on.  Below, four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom, are covered.

1 – Engage in Foreplay

When you do have sex, what happens?  Do you and your partner get right down to business?  If you do, that may be a huge problem.  Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex.  It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship.  If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.

If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so.  Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom.  Call your lover, send a text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.

2 – Be Spontaneous

When you want to have sex, what do you do?  If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good.  Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure.  The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first.  Just lead your partner there.  In fact, who needs a bedroom?

Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first.  Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place. 

3 – Talk About Your Fantasies

One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled.  If that is the case with you?  Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate?  If not, it is time for you to let them know.

Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires.  What would you like to try in the bedroom?  In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same.  Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.

4 – Experiment in the Bedroom

Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting.  When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your options.  For starters, you can try a new sex position.  This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement.  Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.

Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy but be sure to use your best judgment.  It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.

So, there you have it!  You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom.  So what are you waiting for?  Get started today.

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5 Ways To Keep Romance Alive – On A Budget

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Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.

Just about everyone agrees that a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant will set the mood for romance, but have you seen the price tag? Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.

While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items. Try getting matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them. Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

Surprise your partner by making the ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead.

Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything. The top five most romantic songs. The top five most romantic movies. The top five most romantic books. You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.

If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!). You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.

It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie. Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface. You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages. Another version is to make your own cupcakes and frost them with special messages in red icing. You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie.

These 5 simple ideas are sure to warm up any relationship. Don’t be afraid to try simple tips and changes to “routines” to spice things up without having it cost a fortune!

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“What Does Love Mean?” See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love

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A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: “What does love mean?”

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think…

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“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”

Rebecca – age 8

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“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”

Billy – age 4

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“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”

Terri – age 4

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“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”

Danny – age 7

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“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”

Emily – age 8

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“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”

Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)

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“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.”

Nikka – age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)

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“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”

Noelle – age 7

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“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”

Tommy – age 6

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“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.”

Cindy – age 8

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“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”

Elaine – age 5

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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”

Chris – age 7

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“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”

Mary Ann – age 4

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“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” (Now THIS is love!)

Lauren – age 4

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“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” (what an image!)

Karen – age 7

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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”

Mark – age 6

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“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”

Jessica – age 8

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And the final one…

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

“Nothing, I just helped him cry.”

 

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