Productivity

Get Rid Of These 7 Mental Blocks That Are Stopping You From Succeeding In Life

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The biggest roadblock to success is you. External obstacles can be removed, but if it’s you yourself who’s blocking the road, then it’s going to be so much harder for you to succeed. In this article, you’re going to learn of 7 mental blocks you need to get rid of if you want to succeed in life.

1. Doubt

When you doubt yourself, it’s going to be hard to convince anybody else to trust that you can do what you’ve set out to do. The first thing you’ve got to do is convince yourself that you can indeed succeed in reaching your goals.

2. Fear of failure

Many people fear failure, but the truth is there’s really nothing to be afraid. Treat failure as a mentor, and you’ll find out that failing is often a pre-requisite to success.

3. Fear of success

People who fear success often think their lives are going to change for the worse, that they’re going to lose their comfort zones, or that their personalities are going to change overnight. Of course, this isn’t true. It’s just a mental game your brain is playing with you, daring you to see how far you’ll go to chase your dreams.

4. Lack of self-belief

If you don’t believe you’re going to accomplish your goals, then you’re not going to accomplish it. It’s as simple as that. When you lack self-belief, you’re not going to have the motivation or the drive to succeed.

5. Getting too emotional

When you get too emotional, you often fail to think logically. Many wrong decisions have been made by far too many people simply because they let their emotions get the best of them.

6. Making things too complicated

Sometimes we tend to overthink things when a simple solution is just right in front of us. What should often be a simple fix to a simple problem can lead to large sums of money going down the drain.

7. Thinking inside the box

When you’ve explored the entire box, and you can’t find the answer, then you’ve got to think outside the box. There’s nothing wrong with getting creative. If it can get you to where you want to go, then follow it!

Why People Fail To Achieve Their Goals

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It’s pretty common to hear people, especially on social media, broadcast their goals in life. They want to be “this” and “that.” They’ll be big superstars by the time they turn 25, or they’ll be millionaires by 30, and so on.

For the most part, these goals are mere posturing. They’re not actually going to achieve their goals. Sure, they’re probably going to start drafting a plan on how exactly they’re going to conquer their goals, but they’re still going to fail big time.

The #1 reason why people fail to achieve goals is that they’re not making the right kind of goals. They’re only making vague goals.

Ask them the specifics of their goal, and they won’t have a solid answer. They just want to become rich, they just want to be happy, they want to become financially free. But they don’t know exactly when that’s going to happen. If you ask them, they’ll probably say “whenever.”

Another reason is that most people are all talk, and no action. They’ll share their goals with everyone, but when it comes to taking action, they’ll bolt.

Even if they have a smart goal in place, they’ll still lack that motivation to actually do something to achieve that goal. They’ll find it too hard or too difficult. Suddenly, they’ll be too busy working on something else and won’t have time to work on their goals.

The third reason is people simply can’t commit. They probably think someone else is going to help them achieve their goals! But that’s their goal, right? Or, maybe they’ve got a few hundred big goals they’re working on (small goals toward a single big goal is different) and they don’t know which goal they’re going to pursue today.

They can’t make up their minds. They can’t even be bothered to figure out which goal appeals most to them, they’re just putting everything out there, hoping someday something will come to life!

Lastly, many people don’t know how to deal with failure. They encounter failure for the first time, and they tuck their tails in and hide away somewhere, never to be seen again.

The right approach when dealing with failure is to learn from it. It’s okay to feel hurt, to feel disappointed in yourself. But don’t let that be the reason you no longer want to move forward with your goals.

What flips your switch?

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The first step to solving any problem of breaking any habit is to identify what’s causing it in the first place. After all, identifying the problem brings you one step closer to a solution.

So when it comes to breaking an old habit and/or starting a new one, ask yourself “Why?” or “Why not?”

Let’s say you want to quit smoking – easier said than done, I know. The first step would be to make a note of what you’re doing every time you reach for a cigarette. Every time you reach that trigger point (the cue, like we talked about yesterday) jot down why you wanted a cigarette. You’ll probably find there are more cues than you realize. Once you know what they are, you can begin to consciously identify them and deal with them as and when they arise.

Let’s say your research shows that you tend to light up a cigarette every time you make a phone call – you might not even realize you’re doing this. You’ll be able to conclude that you find making phone calls stressful. So in addition to looking for something to do that relieves the stress of making a phone call, you could also cut down on the number of calls you make – substituting e-mails or texts instead.

One thing you should NOT do (and I’ll talk a bit more about this later) is replace one bad habit with another. If you find yourself lighting up on your way home from work after a stressful day, DON’T stop off at a bar or liquor store and substitute cigarettes with booze. That’s just starting another habit you’ll need to break further down the line.

Talk soon!

PS. Your copy of my guide to building better habits is waiting for you here: 

 

 

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