Stuff happens

It’s no secret that things (both good and bad) happen to us in life. How we deal with them helps to define our character. When we deal with them well, we can easily become the best version of ourselves. When we handle them badly, we find ourselves leading unhappy, unfulfilled lives.

Oftentimes, we don’t do things (or put off making decisions) because we’re afraid of failure. We worry that if we try something and fail, people will think we’re stupid and incompetent. Best not to try at all we think.

But it’s important to realize that failure is a natural part of life and doesn’t mean the end of the world. Some of the most successful people to ever walk this planet have failed multiple times before they achieved success. Bill Gates first business venture went bust. Stephen King’s first published novel, Carrie, was rejected by 30 publishers before going on to become one of the most successful horror fiction books of all time.

Sometimes the only way to find out what works is to eliminate what doesn’t work – and that means trying (and failing) over and over again.

Strange as it may seem, you could also be afraid of success.

For example: Do you get nervous when everything seems to be going well? Do you get close to making a major breakthrough, but somehow, something happens to make it fail in the end?

If this sort of thing happens repeatedly it isn’t a coincidence, it’s actually a fear of success. This fear hides in your subconscious to sabotage your hopes and dreams. Overcome this fear by remembering who you are, accepting you won’t please everyone, and being comfortable with every decision you make.

As the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius once put it: “The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”

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